Adolescent behavior (Part I) - First, choose your battle

As a parent of a teenager is very challenging. When his teenage behavior can be frustrating and confusing. Many topics are the potential conflicts of starters such as curfews, activities, spending money, driving privileges, duties, and the type of clothing.

I will use the theme of clothing as an example of a starter conflict. The thought process is similar with a subject of controversy. Let's dive into.

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How does your teen (s) clothing? What exactly are yourspecific needs of these adolescent behavior? Before going further, take the time to think through your possible reactions. What do you want? This may seem a minor issue, but I know that the tears of a mother and a father crying cause.

Ask yourself the following questions:

- Your child wants in tune with their peers?

- Is there a rule to match your tastes or suggestions?

- Your child always on the latest trends and crazy?

- Do you have or get shockedWorrying?

- Are you wondering what you should do? Or, if you want to do everything?

- This is an area where you start to create a line of battle or a war?

- How is your relationship with this guy?

- If you change the boundaries and borders that change the relationship?

- Want a chance to compromise, to accept the relationship?

- How do you feel uncomfortable about this topic?

You are not alone in this kind of questions and concerns. AlsoThe professional framework of programs and institutions that specialize in behavioral changes of young people regularly on these kinds of questions.

They feel the pressure of new "rules" of just a couple of new style or change the behavior teenager comes into the house. Note that you only have so much power to be effective in changing teen behavior, including everything they do serious consequences of teen-state with his / her colleagues.

I remember my high-rolling the belt of her skirtand the federal government with a belt, so I was able to shorten the skirt of the school. My mother wanted the longer skirt, I wanted to shorten it. It 'was very important to fit in What was the behavior of teenagers who now consider only "quirky", but he was serious about you as a teenager? You have to remember anything! Take time to see and understand the seriousness of your page setup in the teen culture teen. Can you imagine how your child feels now?

Another approach to this type ofBehavior in adolescence is required, you and your child to be acceptable. It may not be able to get your child to zip jacket, or wear ear protectors. If you feel uncomfortable in one way or juvenile behavior, talk to your child.

Remember not to talk to your child. Ask questions. Hearing. Hearing. Hear, hear, and. Do not take a final decision on the action until all the necessary information.

For this example, you must attend the dress code at school your child?Although not all schools to actively enforce their dress code, many of them. You have all the answers and information provided to limit to a decision on the change and to establish rules to limit? You do not have the right to slow down, not every teenager is an emergency behavioral.

Also, ask questions and listen before drastic measures that could adversely affect the relationship to take your child. Choose your battles. Do not stumble into it, because you see a difference between you and your child a sense.

Askmore questions and answers before acting. Behavior of adolescents in Part II, we will discuss, how to avoid serious conflicts.